How your mind can ruin your life

June 12, 2017

You wouldn't believe how much of our thoughts are actually responsible for our misery. When I look around at my own life, at my friends and clients, I can't help but notice a pattern: most of our problems in life are created by our mind....

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From expectations to freedom

April 18, 2017

When I observe our lives, I can't help to notice that most of our disappointments, hurts or resentments come from our expectations. The expectations we have on other people, or on how things should be. The other day I was disappointed because I asked a...

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Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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Don’t believe the story

January 28, 2017

In CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) we work a lot with observing the thoughts in our head and how they contribute to our issues. The key principles behind CBT is that our thoughts directly create our emotions, which in turn dictate our behaviours and actions. So for...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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5 ways to handle difficult emotions

July 29, 2015

How do you usually respond when you experience negative emotions, such as anger, fear or pain? Do you willingly embrace them or do you get frustrated and annoyed, trying to push them away? Does it work? Most of us try to fight those emotions when...

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How to have meaningful relationships

January 21, 2015

Do you find it difficult to communicate effectively in your relationships, whether it's with your partners, friends or your work colleagues? Do you often get caught into misunderstandings that create unnecessary tensions? Do you keep reproducing the same patterns over and over again in relationships...

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The ways we project ourselves in relationships

December 18, 2014

Following my previous post in discovering how we project ourselves in our relationships, I wonder if you've already discovered what are the recurrent themes that keep showing up in the stories you create in your interactions with others? Have you started to identify what you're...

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The projected self

December 3, 2014

Following a talk I’ve recently given at Animas London Lecture and requests from my followers who missed it, I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on that fascinating topic that is subjective communication in relationships. I’ve always been fascinated by relationships. I find the...

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Is it your fault?

May 7, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you do or say something and before you even know it you've made someone upset? It happened to me last week, I was so busy that I cancelled on a friend because of the tube strike, without...

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