What is codependency?

February 23, 2017

I was having a chat with a friend the other day by the fireplace, and our conversation led us to talk about codependency and counter-dependency. I'm really fascinated by that topic and I've been studying it and working with it for almost a decade now....

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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10 ways to love yourself

May 4, 2015

Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...

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The projected self

December 3, 2014

Following a talk I’ve recently given at Animas London Lecture and requests from my followers who missed it, I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on that fascinating topic that is subjective communication in relationships. I’ve always been fascinated by relationships. I find the...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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What would you tell the world?

June 23, 2014

I was reading a very interesting book by Lissa Rankin the other day in which she asks a question that made me stop and think: "If someone handed you a microphone and put you in front of an audience on the last day of your...

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Grieving

June 11, 2014

Have you lost a loved one recently? Do you feel numb, do you find yourself hypersensitive, crying for no reason? Have you lost all motivation? You might simply be grieving. Grief is quite a complex emotion and in our society where everything has to happen...

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20 little things that can make you happy

April 24, 2014

What makes you happy? How do you define happiness? Last weekend I went away with a friends to the Dorset coast for Easter. As we were on our way, we started to talk about the meaning of life and happiness. This is a theme that...

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