Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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What’s the difference between guilt and shame?

March 17, 2015

How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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Are you really bipolar?

July 23, 2014

I'm struck with the diagnostic for bipolar disorder. Nowadays, like depression, it's a diagnostic that's very popular and easily given and I am alarmed by the easiness with which NHS doctors jump to those conclusions and give very strong drugs to patients. I have seen...

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EFT for free?

July 15, 2014

I'm often asked why would you go and see an EFT practitioner when you can learn to do it yourself? EFT - standing for Emotional Freedom Technique - is more commonly known as the tapping technique. It stems from Chinese medicine and more specifically acupuncture,...

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Panic attacks

May 14, 2014

Have you ever suffered from panic attacks? the most common symptoms are an irrational fear, physical reactions such as heart racing, sweats and shallow breathing as well as a total loss of control. Panic attacks can hit anywhere and at any time, and it's quite...

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Is it your fault?

May 7, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you do or say something and before you even know it you've made someone upset? It happened to me last week, I was so busy that I cancelled on a friend because of the tube strike, without...

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How do you change your ego states with NLP?

January 23, 2014

In Transactional Analysis, we often talk about ego states. In a nutshell, that means that at any moment you behave either from the place of the child, which represents the emotions and behaviours you use to have when you were a child, the parent, where...

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NLP is just a tool

September 30, 2013

I've recently completed my AAMET EFT training level 1&2 and as I was training, it confirmed something really important that became the root of my Person-Centred NLP approach. When you work with clients, the most important thing is not the repertoire of processes you have...

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