How to cope with fear of intimacy

April 27, 2017

Someone said to me a few days ago something that really hit home. They said "In life, we are actually always alone. The moment the ombilical cord is being cut straight after birth, this is it, that blissful fusion we felt for 9 months in...

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From expectations to freedom

April 18, 2017

When I observe our lives, I can't help to notice that most of our disappointments, hurts or resentments come from our expectations. The expectations we have on other people, or on how things should be. The other day I was disappointed because I asked a...

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Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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What is it all about?

February 18, 2017

You may have noticed from my previous posts that I'm very intrigued at the moment by how we create suffering for ourselves. Different approaches - mindfulness, buddhism or the work of Eckhart Tolle to name a few - refer to the ego as a source...

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How can you change?

February 8, 2017

Do you know why you keep repeating unuseful patterns? What I mean by patterns, can be either your thoughts or your behaviours. I'm talking about those things you keep doing even though you know they're not good for you. Whether it's continuing to eat those...

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What is the ego?

February 6, 2017

In my quest of understanding the mind I'm really intrigued on the link between the ego and the higher self. Eckhart Tolle explains that our ego's strategies are only designed to get a strong sense of identity. I've been intrigued by that idea and decided...

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Don’t believe the story

January 28, 2017

In CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) we work a lot with observing the thoughts in our head and how they contribute to our issues. The key principles behind CBT is that our thoughts directly create our emotions, which in turn dictate our behaviours and actions. So for...

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The sixth stage of grief

September 23, 2016

I've already shared my view on the necessity to give ourselves some time to grief but today I'd like to talk about how to actually deal with grief. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the popular 5 stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross that offers...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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