Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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How to change beliefs?

March 3, 2017

Most of our behaviours and actions in life are controlled by what we believe. Your attitude to money will depend on what you believe about money. If you think having lots of money is a bad thing, you are likely to sabotage yourself when trying...

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What is codependency?

February 23, 2017

I was having a chat with a friend the other day by the fireplace, and our conversation led us to talk about codependency and counter-dependency. I'm really fascinated by that topic and I've been studying it and working with it for almost a decade now....

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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What’s your dream?

August 29, 2015

Do you remember your dreams? Did you know your dreams could potentially give you the answers you've been looking for most of you life? During the day, our conscious mind is very active. This is the part of your mind that thinks, makes decisions and...

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10 ways to love yourself

May 4, 2015

Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...

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How to have meaningful relationships

January 21, 2015

Do you find it difficult to communicate effectively in your relationships, whether it's with your partners, friends or your work colleagues? Do you often get caught into misunderstandings that create unnecessary tensions? Do you keep reproducing the same patterns over and over again in relationships...

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The ways we project ourselves in relationships

December 18, 2014

Following my previous post in discovering how we project ourselves in our relationships, I wonder if you've already discovered what are the recurrent themes that keep showing up in the stories you create in your interactions with others? Have you started to identify what you're...

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The projected self

December 3, 2014

Following a talk I’ve recently given at Animas London Lecture and requests from my followers who missed it, I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on that fascinating topic that is subjective communication in relationships. I’ve always been fascinated by relationships. I find the...

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