How your mind can ruin your life

June 12, 2017

You wouldn't believe how much of our thoughts are actually responsible for our misery. When I look around at my own life, at my friends and clients, I can't help but notice a pattern: most of our problems in life are created by our mind....

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From expectations to freedom

April 18, 2017

When I observe our lives, I can't help to notice that most of our disappointments, hurts or resentments come from our expectations. The expectations we have on other people, or on how things should be. The other day I was disappointed because I asked a...

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Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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How can you change?

February 8, 2017

Do you know why you keep repeating unuseful patterns? What I mean by patterns, can be either your thoughts or your behaviours. I'm talking about those things you keep doing even though you know they're not good for you. Whether it's continuing to eat those...

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What’s the secret to happy relationships?

May 17, 2016

As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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What’s your dream?

August 29, 2015

Do you remember your dreams? Did you know your dreams could potentially give you the answers you've been looking for most of you life? During the day, our conscious mind is very active. This is the part of your mind that thinks, makes decisions and...

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10 ways to love yourself

May 4, 2015

Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...

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What’s the difference between guilt and shame?

March 17, 2015

How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...

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The ways we project ourselves in relationships

December 18, 2014

Following my previous post in discovering how we project ourselves in our relationships, I wonder if you've already discovered what are the recurrent themes that keep showing up in the stories you create in your interactions with others? Have you started to identify what you're...

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