Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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What is it all about?

February 18, 2017

You may have noticed from my previous posts that I'm very intrigued at the moment by how we create suffering for ourselves. Different approaches - mindfulness, buddhism or the work of Eckhart Tolle to name a few - refer to the ego as a source...

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What’s the secret to happy relationships?

May 17, 2016

As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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What’s your dream?

August 29, 2015

Do you remember your dreams? Did you know your dreams could potentially give you the answers you've been looking for most of you life? During the day, our conscious mind is very active. This is the part of your mind that thinks, makes decisions and...

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The ways we project ourselves in relationships

December 18, 2014

Following my previous post in discovering how we project ourselves in our relationships, I wonder if you've already discovered what are the recurrent themes that keep showing up in the stories you create in your interactions with others? Have you started to identify what you're...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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Are you really bipolar?

July 23, 2014

I'm struck with the diagnostic for bipolar disorder. Nowadays, like depression, it's a diagnostic that's very popular and easily given and I am alarmed by the easiness with which NHS doctors jump to those conclusions and give very strong drugs to patients. I have seen...

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EFT for free?

July 15, 2014

I'm often asked why would you go and see an EFT practitioner when you can learn to do it yourself? EFT - standing for Emotional Freedom Technique - is more commonly known as the tapping technique. It stems from Chinese medicine and more specifically acupuncture,...

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