Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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How to change beliefs?

March 3, 2017

Most of our behaviours and actions in life are controlled by what we believe. Your attitude to money will depend on what you believe about money. If you think having lots of money is a bad thing, you are likely to sabotage yourself when trying...

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What’s the secret to happy relationships?

May 17, 2016

As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...

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10 ways to love yourself

May 4, 2015

Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...

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What’s the difference between guilt and shame?

March 17, 2015

How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...

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The projected self

December 3, 2014

Following a talk I’ve recently given at Animas London Lecture and requests from my followers who missed it, I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on that fascinating topic that is subjective communication in relationships. I’ve always been fascinated by relationships. I find the...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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EFT for free?

July 15, 2014

I'm often asked why would you go and see an EFT practitioner when you can learn to do it yourself? EFT - standing for Emotional Freedom Technique - is more commonly known as the tapping technique. It stems from Chinese medicine and more specifically acupuncture,...

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Sexual abuse

November 1, 2013

One in three girls will be abused by the age of eighteen. One in seven children has already been abused. How many do you know? How many of your friends, relatives and colleague have come public with it? How many are still ruled by shame...

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5 ways to make better decisions

August 21, 2013

Do you find it sometimes difficult to make decisions? Have you ever been thinking that on one hand you would like to do something…but on another hand, there might be a better option? Today one of my clients looked very stressed when he arrived at...

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