Why are human relationships so difficult?

April 13, 2017

And I'm not talking just about romantic relationships. I'm talking about all our interactions with other humans. Work relationships, friendships, lovers, family... I've been observing intensely recently how we interact with each other. And I must admit I often feel quite baffled - and a little...

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Don’t believe the story

January 28, 2017

In CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) we work a lot with observing the thoughts in our head and how they contribute to our issues. The key principles behind CBT is that our thoughts directly create our emotions, which in turn dictate our behaviours and actions. So for...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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How do you change your ego states with NLP?

January 23, 2014

In Transactional Analysis, we often talk about ego states. In a nutshell, that means that at any moment you behave either from the place of the child, which represents the emotions and behaviours you use to have when you were a child, the parent, where...

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Healing your inner child

July 16, 2013

I’ve recently read a very interesting article by Andy Hunt on how what we learn as children is totally orientated towards our survival and safety. That got me thinking on the parts integration process I was talking about in my previous post and the origins...

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