How to change beliefs?

March 3, 2017

Most of our behaviours and actions in life are controlled by what we believe. Your attitude to money will depend on what you believe about money. If you think having lots of money is a bad thing, you are likely to sabotage yourself when trying...

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What is codependency?

February 23, 2017

I was having a chat with a friend the other day by the fireplace, and our conversation led us to talk about codependency and counter-dependency. I'm really fascinated by that topic and I've been studying it and working with it for almost a decade now....

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What is it all about?

February 18, 2017

You may have noticed from my previous posts that I'm very intrigued at the moment by how we create suffering for ourselves. Different approaches - mindfulness, buddhism or the work of Eckhart Tolle to name a few - refer to the ego as a source...

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Fear of pain

February 13, 2017

I've been working a lot last year around our relationship to pain. Emotional and physical pain. I've observed that our natural reaction to pain is to try to avoid it, to block it or run away from it. After all, why wouldn't we? Pain is...

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What is the ego?

February 6, 2017

In my quest of understanding the mind I'm really intrigued on the link between the ego and the higher self. Eckhart Tolle explains that our ego's strategies are only designed to get a strong sense of identity. I've been intrigued by that idea and decided...

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Letting go

February 1, 2017

Mindfulness is very popular nowadays and I've been practising mindfulness meditation for almost five years now. At first, I didn't really think it was helping in any way. I was just sitting down and at the best, managing to focus a bit on my breathing...

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The sixth stage of grief

September 23, 2016

I've already shared my view on the necessity to give ourselves some time to grief but today I'd like to talk about how to actually deal with grief. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the popular 5 stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross that offers...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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Are you really bipolar?

July 23, 2014

I'm struck with the diagnostic for bipolar disorder. Nowadays, like depression, it's a diagnostic that's very popular and easily given and I am alarmed by the easiness with which NHS doctors jump to those conclusions and give very strong drugs to patients. I have seen...

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