The best gift you can give someone you love

February 18, 2021

The best gift you can give someone you care about is seeing and accepting them as they are; it’s hearing their voice, what they are deeply saying; it’s understanding them and accepting who they are and where they’re at without judgment or the need to...

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Who’s hurting you?

December 10, 2018

How can we improve our communication with others? When I witness my clients' issues with their loved ones, I am always baffled as to why so many people experience problems in their relationships. Whether it's with family, spouse or co-workers, how come we struggle so...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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What’s the difference between guilt and shame?

March 17, 2015

How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...

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How to have meaningful relationships

January 21, 2015

Do you find it difficult to communicate effectively in your relationships, whether it's with your partners, friends or your work colleagues? Do you often get caught into misunderstandings that create unnecessary tensions? Do you keep reproducing the same patterns over and over again in relationships...

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The ways we project ourselves in relationships

December 18, 2014

Following my previous post in discovering how we project ourselves in our relationships, I wonder if you've already discovered what are the recurrent themes that keep showing up in the stories you create in your interactions with others? Have you started to identify what you're...

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The projected self

December 3, 2014

Following a talk I’ve recently given at Animas London Lecture and requests from my followers who missed it, I’ve decided to write a series of blogs on that fascinating topic that is subjective communication in relationships. I’ve always been fascinated by relationships. I find the...

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Do you accept yourself?

August 21, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...

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Is it your fault?

May 7, 2014

Have you ever been in a situation where you do or say something and before you even know it you've made someone upset? It happened to me last week, I was so busy that I cancelled on a friend because of the tube strike, without...

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Clients are mirrors

March 11, 2014

One of the very interesting observation I've made over the years in working with clients, was how often I could relate to their issues. Especially when I first started to practice, I seemed to attract people who had similar issues to mine and that always...

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