February 13, 2017
I've been working a lot last year around our relationship to pain. Emotional and physical pain. I've observed that our natural reaction to pain is to try to avoid it, to block it or run away from it. After all, why wouldn't we? Pain is...
May 17, 2016
As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...
May 10, 2016
I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...
May 4, 2015
Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...
March 17, 2015
How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...
August 21, 2014
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel an emotion and then beat yourself up for it? I've spoken to countless clients in the past few years in my practice, and there's a theme that keeps coming back: the lack of self-acceptance especially...
July 23, 2014
I'm struck with the diagnostic for bipolar disorder. Nowadays, like depression, it's a diagnostic that's very popular and easily given and I am alarmed by the easiness with which NHS doctors jump to those conclusions and give very strong drugs to patients. I have seen...
June 11, 2014
Have you lost a loved one recently? Do you feel numb, do you find yourself hypersensitive, crying for no reason? Have you lost all motivation? You might simply be grieving. Grief is quite a complex emotion and in our society where everything has to happen...
May 14, 2014
Have you ever suffered from panic attacks? the most common symptoms are an irrational fear, physical reactions such as heart racing, sweats and shallow breathing as well as a total loss of control. Panic attacks can hit anywhere and at any time, and it's quite...
March 11, 2014
One of the very interesting observation I've made over the years in working with clients, was how often I could relate to their issues. Especially when I first started to practice, I seemed to attract people who had similar issues to mine and that always...
