The difference between needs and expectations

July 22, 2019

We hear a lot that the secret for happiness in relationships is to not have any expectations. From Paulo Coelho who tells us in The Alchemist: “When someone sees the same people every day, as had happened with him at the seminary, they wind up...

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Who’s hurting you?

December 10, 2018

How can we improve our communication with others? When I witness my clients' issues with their loved ones, I am always baffled as to why so many people experience problems in their relationships. Whether it's with family, spouse or co-workers, how come we struggle so...

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How to forgive?

September 17, 2018

I hope my previous article on forgiveness last month was useful to you! The second realisation I wanted to share with you today was about the next step into our forgiveness journey. Once we have healed and honoured our own pain, then how do we forgive those...

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How to cope with fear of intimacy

April 27, 2017

Someone said to me a few days ago something that really hit home. They said "In life, we are actually always alone. The moment the ombilical cord is being cut straight after birth, this is it, that blissful fusion we felt for 9 months in...

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From expectations to freedom

April 18, 2017

When I observe our lives, I can't help to notice that most of our disappointments, hurts or resentments come from our expectations. The expectations we have on other people, or on how things should be. The other day I was disappointed because I asked a...

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How to not lose yourself in relationships

February 28, 2017

When you suffer from low self esteem, confidence issues or fear of abandonment - to name a few of the codependency symptoms I describe often, relationships can be one of the most difficult area in your life. Because of its level of intimacy, both physical...

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What is codependency?

February 23, 2017

I was having a chat with a friend the other day by the fireplace, and our conversation led us to talk about codependency and counter-dependency. I'm really fascinated by that topic and I've been studying it and working with it for almost a decade now....

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What’s the secret to happy relationships?

May 17, 2016

As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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How to have meaningful relationships

January 21, 2015

Do you find it difficult to communicate effectively in your relationships, whether it's with your partners, friends or your work colleagues? Do you often get caught into misunderstandings that create unnecessary tensions? Do you keep reproducing the same patterns over and over again in relationships...

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