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Fear of pain

February 13, 2017

I've been working a lot last year around our relationship to pain. Emotional and physical pain. I've observed that our natural reaction to pain is to try to avoid it, to block it or run away from it. After all, why wouldn't we? Pain is...

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How can you change?

February 8, 2017

Do you know why you keep repeating unuseful patterns? What I mean by patterns, can be either your thoughts or your behaviours. I'm talking about those things you keep doing even though you know they're not good for you. Whether it's continuing to eat those...

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What is the ego?

February 6, 2017

In my quest of understanding the mind I'm really intrigued on the link between the ego and the higher self. Eckhart Tolle explains that our ego's strategies are only designed to get a strong sense of identity. I've been intrigued by that idea and decided...

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Letting go

February 1, 2017

Mindfulness is very popular nowadays and I've been practising mindfulness meditation for almost five years now. At first, I didn't really think it was helping in any way. I was just sitting down and at the best, managing to focus a bit on my breathing...

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Don’t believe the story

January 28, 2017

In CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) we work a lot with observing the thoughts in our head and how they contribute to our issues. The key principles behind CBT is that our thoughts directly create our emotions, which in turn dictate our behaviours and actions. So for...

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The sixth stage of grief

September 23, 2016

I've already shared my view on the necessity to give ourselves some time to grief but today I'd like to talk about how to actually deal with grief. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the popular 5 stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross that offers...

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What’s the secret to happy relationships?

May 17, 2016

As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...

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How do you deal with difficult times?

May 10, 2016

I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...

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Do you know yourself?

February 3, 2016

Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...

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