January 28, 2017
In CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) we work a lot with observing the thoughts in our head and how they contribute to our issues. The key principles behind CBT is that our thoughts directly create our emotions, which in turn dictate our behaviours and actions. So for...
September 23, 2016
I've already shared my view on the necessity to give ourselves some time to grief but today I'd like to talk about how to actually deal with grief. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the popular 5 stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross that offers...
May 17, 2016
As I'm about to train students in Transactional Analysis skills for coaches next weekend, I'm exploring the drama triangle dynamic in depth at the moment. I'm quite interested by the work of Barry and Janae Weinhold on codependency, where they explore the early childhood dynamics's...
May 10, 2016
I am reading a book by Thomas Moore, the dark night of the soul, that is really starting to shift my approach to therapy. As a solution-focused trained therapist myself, I have always adopted the view that when issues arise and dark emotions take over...
February 3, 2016
Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living" whilst Aristotle thought that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom". People often ask me why it is so important to know ourselves and why the self-development world insists so much on the value of...
August 29, 2015
Do you remember your dreams? Did you know your dreams could potentially give you the answers you've been looking for most of you life? During the day, our conscious mind is very active. This is the part of your mind that thinks, makes decisions and...
July 29, 2015
How do you usually respond when you experience negative emotions, such as anger, fear or pain? Do you willingly embrace them or do you get frustrated and annoyed, trying to push them away? Does it work? Most of us try to fight those emotions when...
May 4, 2015
Do you love yourself? Do you know what self-love means? And more importantly, do you know how to love yourself? In the self-development world as well as in most self-help articles and books, self-love is one of the most important concepts. We are often told...
March 17, 2015
How do you define the difference between shame and guilt? A lot of people I've been talking to tend to confuse the two, or aren't really sure what the difference is, and actually, if it matters indeed. In my therapeutic work with clients, I often...
January 21, 2015
Do you find it difficult to communicate effectively in your relationships, whether it's with your partners, friends or your work colleagues? Do you often get caught into misunderstandings that create unnecessary tensions? Do you keep reproducing the same patterns over and over again in relationships...
